(Hetero) Dude Looks Like a Lady
In My Closet
If Superman had used his X-ray vision to check out peopleís unmentionables, IMC, he might have been shocked at the number of happily hetero guys who traded in their tighty-whities for the kind of skimpy little satin and lace numbers that would make a real gal blush to wear. Sure, most of the guys you see out in drag are gay, but Iíve seen conventions of cross-dressers where a lot of the guys were there with their wives. Even without spouses, however, it was pretty easy to tell which were which: The gay men had more style.
If this is the only thing about this man that bothers you, get over it and be happy. Or embrace it and make it the basis for a whole new erotic way of life. You know how some couples like to wear those matching outfits wherever they go? Well, you could do that, too, only with your underwear, so it could be your sexy secret.
My dad passed away a few months ago after being ill for several years. Iím divorced, and my 10-year-old daughter and I had been living with him for the last few years, taking care of him. My two sisters are married, have good jobs, own their own homes, and are much better off financially than I am. Before he died, our dad explained to all of us that he was leaving his house to me, and splitting the rest of his assets three ways, which is what he did. Now my sisters are furious. Theyíve decided I must have poisoned his mind against them. They want me to sell the house and give each of them a third of the proceeds. One of them even said that since I lived ďfreeĒ for so many years they should probably even get more. She actually told me that if I donít do what they want sheíll never speak to me again. The other sister hasnít been quite as vicious, but sheís still plenty insistent that they got a raw deal. Iím sorry theyíre so upset, but I think if my dad wanted them to share the house he would have left it to all three of us. What do you think? Should I do what they want for the sake of family harmony?
Harmony, schmarmony. The wrong note isnít coming from you, UH, itís coming from your greedy, selfish sisters, who are trying to guilt you into giving up the security and peace of mind your dad wanted you to have. Now, to put a kinder spin on it, itís true that a lot of times people equate the size of their inheritance with how loved they were by their parents, and your sisters may be hurt thinking they were not as important to your dad. But since he spoke to all of you about it well in advance, and explained his reasons, they canít really claim that this is a horrible shock. And itís not as if he cut them out entirely.
Giving in to them will not fix anything. It may appease them for a while, but itís just as likely theyíd stay bitter and resentful no matter what you did. And, unless youíre the kindest, most generous, most selfless person on the face of the planet, sooner or later you would resent the hell out of them for bullying you out of whatís yours. Keep the house. I wouldnít rub their noses in it, but tell your sisters that although youíre sorry theyíre so dissatisfied, your dad left you the house because it was your home, he wanted you to have it, and therefore the subject is closed.
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